before the brave

We’ve been trained to go through life without expressing extreme emotions. From young children, we are tamed, aren’t we? We are taught to reign it in and bottle it up.   Don’t blurt things out. Don’t cry. Speak this truth but not this one.   In order for us to feel safe expressing ourselves again, we have to give ourselves permission to change the way we think about truth telling.

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WORDS THAT HEALGG Renee
i'm not crazy. i'm an introvert.

After a period of heavy socializing, I feel worn down, spent, drained of energy. Then I have to go be quiet for a long time. When I don’t take this time to recharge, I get cranky, impatient, and eventually--sad and even depressed. I existed that way for years: constantly surrounded by people, constantly on the go, totally neglecting my need for solitude. The whole time, wondering why I was so miserable.
 

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MY BOOKSGG Renee
the biggest problem

Problems are not problems, they are experiences. When we decide to be open to life, we have to truly be OPEN to all the possibilities. This requires faith and surrender. It requires that we make the shift from valuing the outcome to valuing the journey itself -- even with all of its problems and uncertainties.

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MY BOOKSGG Renee
he didn't know how to love

She loved him.  But he didn't know how to love.  He could see love and feel love.  But he couldn't give love.   He could make love.  But he couldn't make promises.  She had desperately wanted his promises.   She wanted his heart, knew she couldn't have it so she took what she could get.

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reflection

Being loyal to a lying man means ignoring your heartbeat, silencing your voice and diminishing your spirit. Pretending you don’t want all of him so you can be content with what you get. It means that fighting becomes foreplay because the thin line between love and hate keeps moving. You stop seeing clearly and the difference between real and fake gets blurry. You find yourself trapped inside a bleak and repetitive story.

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taking responsibility

We were all taught to do it. Wear the mask. Go through the motions. Keep up appearances. Don’t talk about the problems. Don’t be overly sensitive or emotional. Don’t rock the boat. Suppress your feelings. But I felt a pull toward something different.  The feeling was gentle but persistent. I couldn’t continue to ignore it.

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brown crayon

I dismissed a lot of important lessons from my mother because I couldn’t differentiate between the schizophrenia and hard-earned motherly wisdom.  I wonder what it was like for her to feel her mental capacities declining while she was still young, only in her forties, raising a child, working a job and trying to maintain a life.  I didn't think about it from her side back then, I only thought about how it felt to be losing her.

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writer squared webinar

When you decide to write about your life and share your personal journey through your blog, how do you find and grow an engaged audience?   If you are a writer looking to share your words with the world by amplifying your authentic voice and growing your audience organically, we have an excellent resource for you.  

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digital storytellers masterclass

Whether you are just starting out or you’ve been blogging for awhile, you will reach a point where you question what you’re doing and wonder if it makes a difference.  You will get discouraged by low page views or lack of comments.  You might compare yourself to others and think your words don’t matter and your voice isn’t special.  Your doubts will get the best of you and block your creativity, making it hard to post consistently.  You may even want to quit.  This three-hour masterclass will provide you with tools and ideas you can put into practice right away.

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are you avoiding eye contact?

Have you ever talked to someone who wouldn’t look you in the eye?   They look above, behind or around you. It feels like they are talking at you and not to you. You have trouble connecting with their words, you are not sure what they are trying to say or if they even care that you aren’t getting it.   Now think of a time when you talked to someone engaging, who spoke warmly and looked you in the eye.   Think about these two approaches and how they make you feel and read more to find out what this has to do with writing.

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10 ways to differentiate yourself as a blogger

Is this you?  "I know I have something important to say, but I feel like I'm missing something, I'm not ready. Or maybe I'm just scared. I feel like I'm not saying anything that hasn't already been said. How do I find my niche and stand out?  How do I find the courage to say what I'm really thinking? What makes me different and memorable?"  If you feel called to inspire the world with your words, click through to get valuable advice on building a writing career from a blog.

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the truth about the lies i've told

Most people didn't want my truth.  They only wanted to hear things that made them feel comfortable.  I saw telling the truth lead  to disapproval, punishment, sadness, anger.   So I lied to keep the peace.  I lied to protect people's feelings. I lied to make myself seem bigger or to make myself seem smaller.  Whatever the situation called for.   Most of all, I lied to guard my secrets and insecurities.

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NEWSLETTERSGG Renee
healing as activism

Hurt people hurt people .  Healing is a way to be responsible for the space you take up in the world and the energy you give off.   You might think that your healing doesn’t make a difference to society as a whole, but it does. 

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reflections on minimalism

Having dealt with anxiety and constant overwhelm for as long as I can remember, minimalism has been one of the best treatments.   I like to take my time. Make less decisions. Have peace and quiet and space. The world we live in is noisy and chaotic and if we’re not diligent about what we allow to enter our space, we can become consumed by it all.

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